Again, another discussion that was started in my mom's group. A very interesting one - I'm the only one in my mom's group that is a foster mom, and I don't think we have adoptive mom's in our group either. The discussion was - how many children to have and how to space them apart. Of course, my answer as very different than any of the other mom's.
For me, the situation is a bit different. I always wanted 3 children, a boy first then a girl, then another boy. Ah, best laid plans! After several years of marriage and trying to conceive, we found we were unable to have biological children. We were starting adoption procedures, and God really led us into foster care. And now, we have two little boys, 9-1/2 months apart, not "true" siblings. We are adopting the oldest one, and it looks to be headed the same way for the youngest. And now, the youngest has a "true" sibling on the way, a girl, due February, and we are told that we will be placed with that child as well. So before you know it, we have been graciously blessed with an immediate family. It's been lots of work, but so far, lots and lots of rewards. I am anxious for the little girl to come, because I'm seriously outnumbered by males!
As for more - well, we are ready to roll with whatever God gives us. "Our plan" is to have the first three kids into school, and then start with more foster-to-adopt children. While waiting for the first three to get into school, we will take in temporary placement foster children as needed. But of course, "God's Plan" will probably trump "our plan" so I'm just going to watch the picture unfold. Would I have planned to have my first 2 children 9-1/2 months apart? Probably not - it is a lot of work when they are that close yet not twins. Would I change it now? Nope - the boys bring so much joy to our lives! It's fun seeing how well they play together, and learn from each other (well, mostly the youngest learns from the oldest). And now, the little girl coming will have two big brothers to protect her. The two youngest will be just over a year apart - so we'll have 3 children under 2. Are we crazy? Probably! But we feel very blessed. As our friends say, be careful what you pray for, and how often! God has answered our prayers for children in a manner we never imagined!
2 comments:
BOY does that sound familiar, we had 2 ,3 months apart and a 17 month old along with a 23 month old. IT WAS SO MUCH FUN!!!! really it was.
Seeing you both with the boys and being a part of your experience has been an amazing thing. You both have done such wonderful things with the boys and the transformation with Little Man has been incredible. Adding another child to the mix (even though it is a girl) should be no problem for either of you. In fact a girl..... should provide me with hours of endless fun and laughter as it is now your turn! Thank you both for sharing your story and your family with me! See you soon.
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