Adoption Agreement Changed

After much thinking and counsel from other adoptive parents, we have decided to make a significant change to the adoption agreement for Little Man. Mind you, I truly don't believe that the bmom will sign a willing relinqueshmnet and adoption agreement, but in the outside chance that she does, we want to be covered. And after this last year of battles, and mind games, we are clearly convinced that Little Man should not be exposed to bmom until he is at a legal age to decide himself on his involvement with her. I just simply don't trust her, and fear the side effects of even one visit per year with her will have on Little Man. So, we revised the agreement to take out visitation, but keep in letters and photos twice a year, sent through a third party. I just got the copy from our attorney today, so that means her attorney should receive it by Monday, and we'll see what kind of reaction from bmom comes out of it. Frankly, I'm tired of her games, and just ready to be done with all of this. I'm tired of what it's doing to Little Man. He had an extra "visit" with her this week, for an additional taping for the Circle of Security that is going on, and he was a mess that night. He woke up almost every hour crying, and only settled down when I went in and hugged and kissed and talked to him. He doesn't need this anymore. Thankfully, the tpr hearing is only two months away, and hopefully that time will fly by.